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It’s a Whirlwind….But Just In Time May 13, 2009

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Life has been hectic, as I’ve stated before.¬† Actually, let me restate that.¬† It’s not so much that life has been hectic, but more that I’ve been more purposeful in what I’m doing, more focused, more dedicated.¬† I’ve been doing this with every little thing….from how I dust a room to how I parent my children to how I accomplish my work.

I started this focused action because I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching this past year.¬† You know what?¬† I still don’t have any great answers.¬† I don’t think I’ve been set on this planet to change the world.¬† But I do believe that I’ve been commanded to be the best possible steward to my own little universe.¬† So I’ve been trying to truly focus my efforts and energy into doing everything to the best standard as often as I can.¬† In the beginning, it has taken away a lot of my creative energy to meet my standard.¬† Also, I do find that whenever I start on a journey to create something positive, there is a little resistance from the “universe” at first.¬† It’s as if the forces-that-be want to make sure that I really want to achieve my goals.¬† I guess that is why when I have sat down to consider writing a blog post, there has been nothing… no free flowing thought.¬† I’m assuming that the longer I keep at this focused way of living, the easier it will become and then there will be more creative energy available.

Today I was reading one of my favorite blogs, One Louder.  Heather was discussing her own soul searching and brought up this magazine article
from O Magazine.¬† It’s author, Martha Beck, had this to say about a concept she calls Just In Time Thinking which focuses on the abundance that truly exists when we have just what we need, when we need it:

“I can’t quite explain this; it often seems nothing short of miraculous. Perhaps this is why the authors of the Bible included the story of the wandering Israelites who were given manna from heaven, but only permitted to gather enough to supply their needs until the next manna-festation. Whether you take it literally or metaphorically, this tale was considered important enough to become holy writ. Why? …. The Israelite story-keepers wanted to remind readers that, miraculous as it seems, just-in-time confidence keeps supply lines clear and prosperity flowing.”

It is a great article (you should read it) that speaks to putting confidence in the abundance we already have in our lives.¬† I loved the use of the word “manna-festation”¬† I feel that over the last year, that is exactly what God wants me to understand.¬† When I trust, my life will manna-fest productivity and abundance.¬† Gosh, I could write an entire blog on the word manna-fest and how it’s anlaogy could pertain to our lives!¬† I will have what I need, when I need it, as God wants me to have it.¬† I’m really going to focus on this for the rest of this coming year.¬† These are scary times.¬† I have felt a lot of fear and anxiety on the blogs lately.¬† A lot of doom and gloom and “end days” line of thinking.¬† I don’t know that any of that is very helpful.¬† As our nation continues to struggle through this age, we need to focus on our manna-fest.¬† We need to trust in our God and in ourselves that we will have what we need when we need it.

In her article, Martha goes on to recommend the following exercise.  I am leaving early tomorrow in the morning for an extended weekend, but when I return, I shall start the following reflections on a regular basis.

1. List 10 times you thought that there wouldn’t be enough of something and you survived.

2. List 10 areas where you have too much, not too little.

3. List 20‚ÄĒor 50, or 1,000‚ÄĒwonderful things that entered your life just at the right time, with no effort on your part. Start with the little things (oxygen, sunlight, a song on the radio).

I can’t wait to feel abundance, productivity, peace, competence and security in deeper, more soulful ways!

Enjoy the day!

-The Mom


God Bless America January 20, 2009

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As most of you did, I watched the inauguration today with pride and hope for our nation. I feel blessed that I was able to witness this day. Let us never downplay the importance of electing our first minority president. I’ve heard many ask why does there have to be a focus on it at all? In one way they are right….we should be beyond racial concerns. The fact is, though, that we are not. There are too many Americans who can still remember when they weren’t allowed to drink from a certain fountain, sit in a particular movie theater, or swim in a certain pool.

Today we finally live what we speak. We are united and free, all equal, all represented. I do hope that what we see over the next four years is a resurgence of American patriotism. I hope that we can recreate that Great Generation that brought this country through the time of the Second World War to one of our most prosperous eras. Let us be the nation that, once again, rises to the occasion. Let’s conserve our resources, help our neighbors, and involve ourselves in our communities. Let’s stop waiting for the government to figure it out for us. Let us once again become activists and participants. That was the spirit our nation was founded upon. Let’s be that……

Leave a comment and tell us what your goal for the year is….how will you assist our President in re-creating America the Beautiful?

-The Mom


The Great Boob Smash Adventure of 2009 January 13, 2009

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Oh yes…..I am a fully inducted member of the 40 and over crowd that dutifully monitors their breast health!

You know, if you haven’t done this yet, you really should. Forget all the stories you hear….the x-ray tech told me that one of her patients said it was worse than natural child birth….now, c’mon, really??? Have you ever given birth to the greatest love of your life without meds? I have! Twice! Can I just tell you……you can’t even compare that to the very mild, non humiliating experience that I had yesterday during the pancake test.

I mean, I never even howled like a primitive beast from the netherworld! I never was embarrassed about what I looked like or how many people were coming in to observe all my goodies. Just me and the female tech! And I just walked right out of that x-ray room and on to the rest of my day. Easy, peasy, lemon squeezy. No need to stretch out or ice down afterwards. Just the wonderful inner peace of knowing that I’m taking care of little ole’ me.

I did bring my camera with me and I was gonna take pics so you all could see how benign an ordeal it really is but the tech looked at me as if I had fallen straight out of the sky from Planet Looney Tunes.¬† Besides, it may have just been TMI anyway.¬† It wasn’t nearly the flattening that I had expected.¬† I had girlfriends that told me they were going to squeeze my 34Ds until they were flat like a pancake, which was truly a frightening thought for me.¬† I mean, would they be spilling all over the smasher shelf????¬† I wondered how long it would take for my girls to return to a normal shape after such a thing.¬† That isn’t what happens at all.¬† Yes, you get a little compressed, but only a little.¬† For me it wasn’t even uncomfortable for a minute.¬† They do say that each woman has a different experience but I wonder if we don’t hype ourselves up and then feel something that we truly only conjure up in our own heads.

I’m tellin’ ya…there are a lot of other things I would rather NOT do for 15 minutes!

So come on gals!  Get your boob smash adventure on and get that mammogram this year!

-The Mom


Water, Water Everywhere November 13, 2008

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It has been raining all week here in the Pacific Northwest.¬† No surprise there, I guess.¬† But Soul Coaching Water Week has really swept in.¬† Today our goal is to “do nothing”.¬† I guess I’ve been practicing this for the past couple of days.¬† Something about all the rain took me from the great highs of last week and diluted them.¬† I am feeling water logged.¬†

Once again, I decided to move towards something and then felt the universe push back against me.¬† I came up with my personal mission statement.¬† When I finish writing it, I was excited to begin each day with purposeful energy.¬† Instead, every morning this past week I have awoken feeling like I hadn’t slept long enough or well enough.¬† I know that this is just my own inner resistance.¬† Do I really want this mission?¬† What happens if I don’t live up to it and nothing changes?¬† I also know that I do just need to see past those doubtful thoughts and keep my eye on the goal.¬† I saw through last week’s experiences that intention will bring result.¬†

So, I’m pushing through.¬† I’m not floating like I was during Air week.¬† I am swimming against the tide.¬† But I will see you on the other side of this big puddle!¬†

-The Mom


Turn Around Bright Eyes November 10, 2008

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What a wonderful weekend…quiet, relaxing, bonding…just perfect.¬† I¬†listened to¬†the waves of Puget Sound roll against the shore and closed my eyes and lifted my face to feel the misty raindrops falling.¬† I was surrounded by water!¬† It was refreshing and cleansing and grounding.

When I got back home in my mailbox was a late birthday card from my favorite aunt.¬† In it she wrote “women have a very specific kind of courage that enables them to fling themselves into the open sea”.¬† How amazing was that on our first day of Water week?!¬† Her sentiment mirrored what I have been finding in my own heart lately.¬† Courage and Bravery and Risk and Endless Possibility.¬†

Today in Soul Coaching we were asked to examine the turning points of our lives and what kinds of emotions we associate with those times.  Here are a few of mine:

  • My family’s move from Illinois to California when I was 10
  • Spending a summer as an exchange student in Ecuador
  • Putting myself through college
  • Getting divorced

Each of those times, and the other turning points that I haven’t mentioned, took courage and bravery and risk.¬† They also involved many different emotions.¬† I notice a pattern however of aloneness.¬† Is that a word?¬† Not loneliness…Alone-ness.¬† The two seem different to me.¬† I don’t know how I feel about that.¬† Was I alone because I didn’t want to let anyone in?¬† Do I just thrive off independence?¬† I notice that I’m not super connected to my community and my community often changes.¬† I tend to maintain a very small group of loved ones.¬† This is something I will have to continue to think about.

On a positive side, my mission statement is beginning to form:

My purpose is to strive to be the best that I can be in every moment (that doesn’t mean perfect, just the best I can be right then).¬† To live each day with intent and do everything with purpose.¬† To create an environment for my daughters and myself that is stable, positive,¬†and centered.¬† To always seek that feminine courage that allows me to fling myself to the open sea.¬† To love with an open and accepting heart.

It’s a start anyway!

-The Mom


Mission Impossible November 9, 2008

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Oh no….the end of the link list…. I have nothing else to do but post now.¬† Today’s Soul Coaching activity is one I’d rather avoid….coming up with a mission statement.¬† Oh I’ve started this process before…with Stephen Covey’s book about Effective Families, the book The Purpose Filled Life, with my church family (we do this every 4 years).¬† I have NEVER been able to truly come up with a mission statement.¬† I’ve wanted to.¬† It just seems SO. BIG.¬† How does one put the purpose of their life in words?¬† Words significant enough to encapsulate what their life on this earth was to be? Are my goals worthy enough?¬† Big enough?¬† What if I fail?¬† What if I don’t achieve what I set out to do?¬† What is it that makes my time here worth it?¬†

So, I read every other link in the Soul Coaching group before I posted.¬† I was looking for some guidance, some wisdom, some answers.¬† One of the things I’m supposed to be doing today is listening¬† to or being aware of messages being given to us.¬† That’s exactly what I got!¬† I learned that I don’t need to know exactly who I am or where I’m going.¬† I can be as simple or defined as I’m currently inspired to be.

Thank you to those that show me the way.¬† Thank you to each and every one of you that support me and the Daughter and leave comments that validate and reassure us.¬† I still don’t know exactly how to define my personal mission.¬† I will be listening and looking for messages that will lead me in¬†the right direction.¬†¬†I will focus on defining my mission statement over the week.¬† I welcome the cleansing and refreshing that comes with water (our element for the week).¬† And, as Megg pointed out to me, I am so blessed to be spending the weekend ending air week and starting water week at my beloved BeachHouse where air and water prevail!

-The Mom