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Everyone Loves a Freebie! April 22, 2009

Filed under: helpful tidbits!,Uncategorized — meandmom @ 4:13 pm
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I almost hate to share this little tidbit with anyone that may be still reading my little blog after my absence. BUT…..I love supporting my bloggy friends so, share I will do!

My friend The Headless Mom has started a new project that I love! Her debut post offers a freebie that pro’lly every single one of us could use at some point or another.

The thing I love the most? This is a product that I probably would not have the nerve to buy myself ‘cuz I wouldn’t want to risk it, but I would be really wishing I knew if I should be buying it or not.

Enter Headless Mom, stage left! HM tried this product….risked her very own clothes for it….and then wrote a review. Thanks Headless! Now, not only do I know that it is worth the dollars to go get my own, but there is an eency weeny teeny tiny chance that I might be the lucky recipient of my very own box FOR.FREE! You could have the same opportunity if you go check out her new site.

I won’t even hate you if you get it and I don’t. That’s friendship right there. Plus…..this is the internet so you won’t know if I’m looking at you all nasty.

-The Mom

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A New Day February 18, 2009

Filed under: family,ponderings — meandmom @ 6:56 pm
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Well now, after the heaviness of my last post, I need to take in a deep breath and just have a big ole belly laugh!   BWAAHHHBWAAAHH!

Much better!  I told you….there are some heavy thoughts running circles in my little pea brain (not much room in there I guess).  When I started this blog it was for my daughter and I to communicate some of those things that divorced families go through.  We haven’t done a TON of that because, although I think it is good for us to do, The Daughter and I are still careful about what we share.  FYI….anything I share here is something that she and I have already discussed in some fashion.

There are tons of families out there that face the hardships of making a new identity for themselves after a divorce.  I would like this to be a place where kids or moms or dads could know that they are not suffering through their process by themselves. And that everyone in the family has their own perspective and their own hurts, worries, concerns.

People sometimes raise their eyebrows at me over the fact that I include The Daughter in this discussion.  Here’s the thing, when I was 14 my parents divorced.  My mom and dad were very tight lipped about everything, just like they were told to be.  I understand the need for a lot of that, I do.  However, It was also very confusing to us kids as to why there was so much tension and frustration and why our parents couldn’t even tolerate being in the same room anymore and on and on and on.

I’ve chosen a more open, but careful, dialogue with The Daughter.  Part of that is based on my experience, part of that is based on her overly mature personality.  It might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but it is working for us.  It’s important for kids to understand that their parents are people too.  And you know what?  Divorce hurts.  It hurts everyone.  Even Mommy.  Even Daddy.  And you know what?  It’s okay to hurt.  It’s not fun, but it’s part of life and we need to learn how to get through it.  It would have been helpful to me to understand that when I was going through it as a kid.

That being said…part of being ok is not dwelling on the tough stuff all the time.  So sometimes I want this to be a space just to talk about life, show pictures and silly videos,  and meet and communicate with new friends.

In that vain…..

The other day I finished my taxes and got them filed….yeah for me and for tax returns!  My own little economic stimulus package!  I also filed away all of the end of the year paperwork.  There is something very satisfying for me in that.  I love tidy little piles and things buttoned up tight and clean.  I feel that the hardships of 2008 are behind me and the goodness of 2009 is only waiting to happen.

Enjoy the DAY!

-The Mom

 

Attack of the Zombie Mom May 28, 2008

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I’m currently on day #3 of the insomniatic jag.  You know it’s bad when you walk in a room and instead of Hey Co-Worker Lady!  you hear Hey! You Look Tired!  Yeah…that’s when you know you really, really need some shut eye.  Just in case you didn’t figure it out before work when you were biting off the head of the Littlest Sister because she was having difficulty spreading peanut butter on her sandwich.  Sorry Littlest One, Zombies like first grade heads for breakfast.

So, the girls on the recess playground at The School should be glad I’m not volunteering today!   Zombies also like devouring 5th grade SnobbyHeads for afternoon snacks!  It is always so relieving to exit that “Mean Girls” phase of life.  When I did however, I was naive to the fact that I’d have to go through it again via my kids.  Aren’t we supposed to live vicariously through them for good stuff…like all the things we wished we would have been (cheerleader, prom queen, straight A student) NOT all the things we hated the first time around???

Chin up Daughter!  You will overcome eventually.  At some point these girls run out of nasty energy and figure out that they aren’t any better than anyone else after all.  Well, at least they’re supposed to.

In the meantime, remember to pick up all the stuff on the stairs and in the family room before I return from work.  Maybe if we don’t feed the Zombie any more children, she will go away.

-The Mom