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It’s a Whirlwind….But Just In Time May 13, 2009

Hello to any of you that still pop by 🙂

Life has been hectic, as I’ve stated before.  Actually, let me restate that.  It’s not so much that life has been hectic, but more that I’ve been more purposeful in what I’m doing, more focused, more dedicated.  I’ve been doing this with every little thing….from how I dust a room to how I parent my children to how I accomplish my work.

I started this focused action because I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching this past year.  You know what?  I still don’t have any great answers.  I don’t think I’ve been set on this planet to change the world.  But I do believe that I’ve been commanded to be the best possible steward to my own little universe.  So I’ve been trying to truly focus my efforts and energy into doing everything to the best standard as often as I can.  In the beginning, it has taken away a lot of my creative energy to meet my standard.  Also, I do find that whenever I start on a journey to create something positive, there is a little resistance from the “universe” at first.  It’s as if the forces-that-be want to make sure that I really want to achieve my goals.  I guess that is why when I have sat down to consider writing a blog post, there has been nothing… no free flowing thought.  I’m assuming that the longer I keep at this focused way of living, the easier it will become and then there will be more creative energy available.

Today I was reading one of my favorite blogs, One Louder.  Heather was discussing her own soul searching and brought up this magazine article
from O Magazine.  It’s author, Martha Beck, had this to say about a concept she calls Just In Time Thinking which focuses on the abundance that truly exists when we have just what we need, when we need it:

“I can’t quite explain this; it often seems nothing short of miraculous. Perhaps this is why the authors of the Bible included the story of the wandering Israelites who were given manna from heaven, but only permitted to gather enough to supply their needs until the next manna-festation. Whether you take it literally or metaphorically, this tale was considered important enough to become holy writ. Why? …. The Israelite story-keepers wanted to remind readers that, miraculous as it seems, just-in-time confidence keeps supply lines clear and prosperity flowing.”

It is a great article (you should read it) that speaks to putting confidence in the abundance we already have in our lives.  I loved the use of the word “manna-festation”  I feel that over the last year, that is exactly what God wants me to understand.  When I trust, my life will manna-fest productivity and abundance.  Gosh, I could write an entire blog on the word manna-fest and how it’s anlaogy could pertain to our lives!  I will have what I need, when I need it, as God wants me to have it.  I’m really going to focus on this for the rest of this coming year.  These are scary times.  I have felt a lot of fear and anxiety on the blogs lately.  A lot of doom and gloom and “end days” line of thinking.  I don’t know that any of that is very helpful.  As our nation continues to struggle through this age, we need to focus on our manna-fest.  We need to trust in our God and in ourselves that we will have what we need when we need it.

In her article, Martha goes on to recommend the following exercise.  I am leaving early tomorrow in the morning for an extended weekend, but when I return, I shall start the following reflections on a regular basis.

1. List 10 times you thought that there wouldn’t be enough of something and you survived.

2. List 10 areas where you have too much, not too little.

3. List 20—or 50, or 1,000—wonderful things that entered your life just at the right time, with no effort on your part. Start with the little things (oxygen, sunlight, a song on the radio).

I can’t wait to feel abundance, productivity, peace, competence and security in deeper, more soulful ways!

Enjoy the day!

-The Mom


Everyone Loves a Freebie! April 22, 2009

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I almost hate to share this little tidbit with anyone that may be still reading my little blog after my absence. BUT…..I love supporting my bloggy friends so, share I will do!

My friend The Headless Mom has started a new project that I love! Her debut post offers a freebie that pro’lly every single one of us could use at some point or another.

The thing I love the most? This is a product that I probably would not have the nerve to buy myself ‘cuz I wouldn’t want to risk it, but I would be really wishing I knew if I should be buying it or not.

Enter Headless Mom, stage left! HM tried this product….risked her very own clothes for it….and then wrote a review. Thanks Headless! Now, not only do I know that it is worth the dollars to go get my own, but there is an eency weeny teeny tiny chance that I might be the lucky recipient of my very own box FOR.FREE! You could have the same opportunity if you go check out her new site.

I won’t even hate you if you get it and I don’t. That’s friendship right there. Plus…..this is the internet so you won’t know if I’m looking at you all nasty.

-The Mom


Show and Share March 31, 2009

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I was going to write today about how I need to get motivated to increase the amount of exercise in my life….and by increase, of course I mean start.

But I am still too sick to do anything about that so instead I am sitting listlessly at my office desk going through all my favorite blogs and thought I’d share….

I’ve collected many over the last several months.  Some people collect china plates, some collect thimbles, some collect stamps….I’ve been collecting blogs.

I started collecting blogs with authors by the name of Jenny, Jen, Jenn, Jennifer…..but I have added many that also reflect some of my interests.

The Adventures of the Headless Family The first blog I ever commented on that I got a response back!  Headless Mom is a great gal and has always encouraged me with my blog.  I hope to cross paths with her this summer.

Where’s my Damn Answer The crazy ladies here actually asked little ole me to do a guest blog.  They have a mixed bag of stuff, always funny or smart or interesting.

Dealing With Life is my funny new friend making her way through life’s stuff.

The NieNie Dialogues is the amazing story about a mom with 4 kids…she has been part of the blogging community forever but was involved in a terrible plane accident last August.  Read this with a tissue and prepare to be inspired.

Jenny On The Spot is hilarious, and glittery, and the President of the Dance Party and Facebook.

Chased by Children is written by a snarky midwestern broad who I admire and love reading.

Barefoot Foodie should not be read while drinking and you can’t be the type that is easily offended by language or irreverance in general.  If you like to laugh however?  Go now!

The Petersons Go Public is written by a brave, lovely gal who is a fantastically creative writer.

In Three Words is a new site by an established blogger….great concept…interesting results.

For Homeward Bound inspiration I read…..

A Soft Place to Land

Nesting Place

Freckles Chick

Our Suburban Cottage

The Lettered Cottage

My Sweet Savannah

All great places to be inspired to make your own great place!

When I’m stuck on what to make for dinner…..

Ten Minutes to Digest

Bake at 350

Dozen Flours

Smitten Kitchen

OK….so not all of those are for dinner ideas….what?

This gal is going to help me clean out and spiff up my closet

Caridgan Empire

This is by no means my whole collection….and I don’t comment on all of these blogs….on some of them I comment every time they post….some of them I strickly lurk…..but I love them all.

Hope you are fairing this start of spring better than I…..The Daughter just called me as she came home from school….now she’s sick too  😦

-The Mom


Apple Pie in a Bag February 25, 2009

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I thought I’d share one of my favorite parenting tips with ya’ll today.  I threw that ya’ll in just for my Grandmother….I’ll talk about her tomorrow so make sure you come back!

This idea developed because for a long time anything food related that was wholesome and natural…you know like fruits or veggies…..were completely rejected by The Daughter.  Thankfully she’s grown out of that stage!  This little treat still comes in handy though because right now The Littlest either has a bunch of holes in her mouth or teeth that are ready to fall out to make new holes in her mouth.

For school lunches or snacks I take my apple corer/slicer thing-a-ma-jiggy (you know…the one that cuts the core and 8 wedges of apple) and pound it through slice the apple.  Then I stick it in a ziploc baggie and splash it with a few drops of lemon juice.  I sprinkle in some cinammon and a scant little bit of sugar (sometimes I eliminate that step but don’t tell the kids!).  Then I shake it all up.

By the time the kids eat it at snack or lunch, all the flavors have permeated the apple slices and they taste just like apple pie!

Bonus: The kids can’t tell if the apple slices have browned at all….which is a very good way to avoid fruit rejection.

Try it….you’ll like it!

-The Mom


Another quickie! February 4, 2009

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I loves me a brainless, funny chick flick with all the top girlie talent in it and that’s why I’m looking forward to the release of “He’s Not that Into You”. This is just the kind of film that a girl needs sometimes, ya know?

No body makin’ ya think too hard….no crying….no car crashes….just silliness.

Right now, too celebrate the new release, Jenny on the Spot is offering a great giveaway!

GO! Go Now! Leave a comment! Don’t! You might win a CD! Leave it alone, it’s mine! And a hoodie! Forget about it!

Truly….go check out Jenny…she’s a hoot and a hottie and she’ll make you smile.

-The Mom


Turn Around Bright Eyes November 10, 2008

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What a wonderful weekend…quiet, relaxing, bonding…just perfect.  I listened to the waves of Puget Sound roll against the shore and closed my eyes and lifted my face to feel the misty raindrops falling.  I was surrounded by water!  It was refreshing and cleansing and grounding.

When I got back home in my mailbox was a late birthday card from my favorite aunt.  In it she wrote “women have a very specific kind of courage that enables them to fling themselves into the open sea”.  How amazing was that on our first day of Water week?!  Her sentiment mirrored what I have been finding in my own heart lately.  Courage and Bravery and Risk and Endless Possibility. 

Today in Soul Coaching we were asked to examine the turning points of our lives and what kinds of emotions we associate with those times.  Here are a few of mine:

  • My family’s move from Illinois to California when I was 10
  • Spending a summer as an exchange student in Ecuador
  • Putting myself through college
  • Getting divorced

Each of those times, and the other turning points that I haven’t mentioned, took courage and bravery and risk.  They also involved many different emotions.  I notice a pattern however of aloneness.  Is that a word?  Not loneliness…Alone-ness.  The two seem different to me.  I don’t know how I feel about that.  Was I alone because I didn’t want to let anyone in?  Do I just thrive off independence?  I notice that I’m not super connected to my community and my community often changes.  I tend to maintain a very small group of loved ones.  This is something I will have to continue to think about.

On a positive side, my mission statement is beginning to form:

My purpose is to strive to be the best that I can be in every moment (that doesn’t mean perfect, just the best I can be right then).  To live each day with intent and do everything with purpose.  To create an environment for my daughters and myself that is stable, positive, and centered.  To always seek that feminine courage that allows me to fling myself to the open sea.  To love with an open and accepting heart.

It’s a start anyway!

-The Mom


Mission Impossible November 9, 2008

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Oh no….the end of the link list…. I have nothing else to do but post now.  Today’s Soul Coaching activity is one I’d rather avoid….coming up with a mission statement.  Oh I’ve started this process before…with Stephen Covey’s book about Effective Families, the book The Purpose Filled Life, with my church family (we do this every 4 years).  I have NEVER been able to truly come up with a mission statement.  I’ve wanted to.  It just seems SO. BIG.  How does one put the purpose of their life in words?  Words significant enough to encapsulate what their life on this earth was to be? Are my goals worthy enough?  Big enough?  What if I fail?  What if I don’t achieve what I set out to do?  What is it that makes my time here worth it? 

So, I read every other link in the Soul Coaching group before I posted.  I was looking for some guidance, some wisdom, some answers.  One of the things I’m supposed to be doing today is listening  to or being aware of messages being given to us.  That’s exactly what I got!  I learned that I don’t need to know exactly who I am or where I’m going.  I can be as simple or defined as I’m currently inspired to be.

Thank you to those that show me the way.  Thank you to each and every one of you that support me and the Daughter and leave comments that validate and reassure us.  I still don’t know exactly how to define my personal mission.  I will be listening and looking for messages that will lead me in the right direction.  I will focus on defining my mission statement over the week.  I welcome the cleansing and refreshing that comes with water (our element for the week).  And, as Megg pointed out to me, I am so blessed to be spending the weekend ending air week and starting water week at my beloved BeachHouse where air and water prevail!

-The Mom